We all get stuck in our ways, ways that we’ve been told, sold and brought into. And then, just like driving a car, we just keep on driving without really having to be conscious of the drive, we just do it in what’s known an unconscious competence level; in other words, we don’t think about it, we just do it.
 
We live everyday life imbrued by a few of these similar types of habits. Certain paradigms of thought and beliefs that we have assumed are now embedded in our behaviours, and yet they are not necessarily of conscious choice and awareness. Nor evolutionary in content.
 
We are so much more than what we do on a rinse and repeat cycle... we are powerhouse creators with endless possibilities and opportunity to live a truly enriching and purpose-filled life.
 
One such paradigm that needs an over hall is this old chestnut - we all have our ‘good days and bad days’.

​If I buy into this as a way of life it becomes just that, your way of life. What if instead, there aren’t any good days or bad days, rather there are growth days or as I like to frame them, evolutionary days (in place of bad days) and there are enriched days (good days) – and it’s not measured by a day, rather by moments.

I’ve certainly had a few periods in my life where I was working through some pretty big challenges; grief comes to mind. It would be so easy to label that time as a ‘shit time’, a bad few days, weeks, years… whatever language we use. And yet that period of my life was hugely challenging no question, but also hugely rewarding. I grew so much through this period of time, I learned about the cycle of life and death, the process of grief, a new depth of love, I rose above my fear of death… and my evolutionary vigour has strengthened my way of life in all ways...  I feel completely enriched by this time. There was nothing ‘bad’ or ‘good’ about it.
 
Let’s explore with a few considerations:
 
As soon as we say it’s a good day or bad day we have set an expectation and forfeited flow. Our flow state is where we are in the infinite possibilities at play, the opportunity to deepen our awareness, and feel more of our true essence in the driver’s seat.
 
If we live according to a dogma such as this, we are then bound by the consciousness of that which we have been indoctrinated into.  In other words, we don’t know there is something greater.
 
Beware of time as a measure - If time is a measure and we set it to a clock that is one day, we can get caught in the unconscious alignment that it’s just one day to the next, rather than a way of life.
 
Think of time, not as linear, rather cyclical where we get to deepen into a way of life that is truly aligned to our own rhythm and flow, keeping our growth game strong.
 
Everything that challenges us, teaches us. Think about it, if we are reacting (the mother of all disharmony), or suffering (the unnecessary aspect of pain), or feeling anything that is uncomfortable, unsettling or unsafe these are all indicators that we need to look within to see where we are allowing these aspects to take us out (of our flow).
 
When we do look within we can gain new awareness allowing the healing, which in turn releases and clears what challenges us, and as a result we get solid in ourselves (growth).
 
The gift of adversity is it’s life’s greatest teacher. 
 
Imagine each time you work at this level how you would deepen into your sense of self, your worth, your shine, your greatness – igniting true lasting enrichment. Isn’t that a better way to define ‘a bad day’ as a growth day, igniting your evolutionary vigour!
 
You know those days that just flow even though there’s a lot going on, when your growth is strong and nothing gets to you (like it used to), where you smile all day, where people are delighted in conversation with you, where you feel in complete alignment… those are the enriched days you get to live as a result of your growth days, and evolutionary vigour.
 
The days you feel a skip in your step, bringing your all, your A-Game, your Greatness and Shine... that is who we are innately. Kind of puts good days and bad days in the past right?!
 
In summary – it’s not about good days and bad days… it’s about growth days and enriched living. The depth that is on offer for all if us to continually evolve is what it’s about. Not to get better days, rather to deeply align to all you are and all that is on offer, always.
 
The invitation - break the cycle of good and bad, move into growth and enriching… and see what starts to shift in your everyday life.

Love, Lara XO

If you didn't know this, it's true - everyone has their unique superpower! In my work I often hear of the struggles someone has, naturally. Which I totally welcome, as when we speak of what troubles us, to out what challenges us we open the door to return to our awesomeness. I love taking a deep dive into these areas, as the conversations are always laced with sprinkles of gold leading us to the many treasures within.

To be fair at the time of these conversations those in the hot seat don't always feel the treasures so much initially (been there done that), but they always celebrate what is revealed, as our seeming struggles leave some pretty awesome clues of what is our Superpower.

So, let's breakdown some of the clues.

What I always look for and attune to are the area in their life where you would feel to be most under attack. This is the First clue.

Second clue - Often there's a giveaway where there's a lot of reactions, yup who'd have thought! Where there's seemingly constant challenges, the struggle seems never ending and it 'just keeps happening'.

Some refer to this area in their life as an 'achilles heal', the one area in life that never seems to cease. It can appear relentless; so much so there's a giving up as it's just 'too hard' to do life in a specific area, be it work, relationships, business, family, friends... without feeling the wrath of the forces that keep coming.

I recall a conversation a long time ago with a very aware and wise friend who just couldn't escape this one area in her life that just kept reoccurring, no matter how much she 'worked on it'. Introducing the Third clue! This could also sound like, 'but I've done some much work on this already'.

I would say most of us have spoken to friends, family, colleagues, therapists about these challenging areas. And the focus is often to look at the problem, rather than see what it is that you are totally amazing at that's been eroding over the many years of not knowing the truth. As without fail it's not a weakness, it's your strength that is under attack. It's a neon flashing light pointing to your Superpower.

Some examples follow:

1. Feeling to hide from the world, calling oneself an introvert, labelled as too sensitive versus true Sensitivity - our ability to be who we truly are, to be attuned to what we sense, to be vulnerable in a harsh world.

2. Feeling unsure, not able to make choices, confusion, fluffy, seemingly lacking confidence versus Absoluteness - Backing yourself 100% no matter what.

3. In your head, buzzy, unsettled, looking for what's next, never satisfied, addictive personality versus inner Stillness - An inner quality that is unshakable.

4. Reactive, triggered by injustice, hate of the system, anger, frustration versus true Observation - The ability to see what is at play and not absorb the poison.

5. Seriousness, intensity, struggle, melancholy, weighed down by the world versus pure Joy - a playfulness in all of life.

6. Withdrawal, Dislike of people, dislike of drama, disconnection, introversion versus Love (of humanity) - no harm is done, a sense of community and purpose.

7. Not speaking up, feeling judged, feeling shut down, feeling your voice doesn't matter, being forceful with your communication, telling versus true Expression - truth and wisdom expressed that holds no agenda.

8. Non-accepting, challenging, annoyed, frustrated, struggling with finding your place, not fitting in, feeling the 'odd one out' versus Truth - not taking what is at face value, standing for something other than the status quo that is aligned to our essence, our soulfulness.

So did you feel one or more maybe your true Superpower?  We are constantly being shown where we are giving our power away, but the struggles we feel that are in fact the result of the relentlessness of life slowly eroding our sense of who we truly are. When we come to realise how we have these aspects at play, unpack how they are able to run, reignite the power from within... oh how we then change the playing field.  

Get curious about what's true, look beyond the external behaviours, rather look within, as there you will find the hidden treasures you seek - the gold was never not with you. 

Let me know if it hits the spot or if you have any questions. If you'd like a session to uncover your Superpower CLICK HERE. 

Love, Lara XO

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