 If you didn't know this, it's true - everyone has their unique superpower! In my work I often hear of the struggles someone has, naturally. Which I totally welcome, as when we speak of what troubles us, to out what challenges us we open the door to return to our awesomeness. I love taking a deep dive into these areas, as the conversations are always laced with sprinkles of gold leading us to the many treasures within.
To be fair at the time of these conversations those in the hot seat don't always feel the treasures so much initially (been there done that), but they always celebrate what is revealed, as our seeming struggles leave some pretty awesome clues of what is our Superpower. So, let's breakdown some of the clues. What I always look for and attune to are the area in their life where you would feel to be most under attack. This is the First clue. Second clue - Often there's a giveaway where there's a lot of reactions, yup who'd have thought! Where there's seemingly constant challenges, the struggle seems never ending and it 'just keeps happening'. Some refer to this area in their life as an 'achilles heal', the one area in life that never seems to cease. It can appear relentless; so much so there's a giving up as it's just 'too hard' to do life in a specific area, be it work, relationships, business, family, friends... without feeling the wrath of the forces that keep coming. I recall a conversation a long time ago with a very aware and wise friend who just couldn't escape this one area in her life that just kept reoccurring, no matter how much she 'worked on it'. Introducing the Third clue! This could also sound like, 'but I've done some much work on this already'. I would say most of us have spoken to friends, family, colleagues, therapists about these challenging areas. And the focus is often to look at the problem, rather than see what it is that you are totally amazing at that's been eroding over the many years of not knowing the truth. As without fail it's not a weakness, it's your strength that is under attack. It's a neon flashing light pointing to your Superpower. Some examples follow: 1. Feeling to hide from the world, calling oneself an introvert, labelled as too sensitive versus true Sensitivity - our ability to be who we truly are, to be attuned to what we sense, to be vulnerable in a harsh world. 2. Feeling unsure, not able to make choices, confusion, fluffy, seemingly lacking confidence versus Absoluteness - Backing yourself 100% no matter what. 3. In your head, buzzy, unsettled, looking for what's next, never satisfied, addictive personality versus inner Stillness - An inner quality that is unshakable. 4. Reactive, triggered by injustice, hate of the system, anger, frustration versus true Observation - The ability to see what is at play and not absorb the poison. 5. Seriousness, intensity, struggle, melancholy, weighed down by the world versus pure Joy - a playfulness in all of life. 6. Withdrawal, Dislike of people, dislike of drama, disconnection, introversion versus Love (of humanity) - no harm is done, a sense of community and purpose. 7. Not speaking up, feeling judged, feeling shut down, feeling your voice doesn't matter, being forceful with your communication, telling versus true Expression - truth and wisdom expressed that holds no agenda. 8. Non-accepting, challenging, annoyed, frustrated, struggling with finding your place, not fitting in, feeling the 'odd one out' versus Truth - not taking what is at face value, standing for something other than the status quo that is aligned to our essence, our soulfulness. So did you feel one or more maybe your true Superpower? We are constantly being shown where we are giving our power away, but the struggles we feel that are in fact the result of the relentlessness of life slowly eroding our sense of who we truly are. When we come to realise how we have these aspects at play, unpack how they are able to run, reignite the power from within... oh how we then change the playing field. Get curious about what's true, look beyond the external behaviours, rather look within, as there you will find the hidden treasures you seek - the gold was never not with you. Let me know if it hits the spot or if you have any questions. If you'd like a session to uncover your Superpower CLICK HERE. Love, Lara XO  Let's talk about the trap of guilt and how this is something that touches so many of our lives. The feeling of not doing enough, not being enough, being too selfish, being self-centred. Or perhaps the shoulds are in the mix; I should have done more, said more, helped more. The spiral of the shoulda, woulda, coulda. Then add in the cost of taking these things on and then replaying the situations, outcomes and events... often bound by a sinking feeling, one that costs us our peace and joy.
So… here's what my client sent from his notes during our session: “We hide out in guilt. Guilt is tricking you. Guilt drops you. We go to guilt to drop. What's the pay off in guilt? The payoff is hiding out”. Yours truly. What do I mean by this.. allow me to break it down. We hide out in guilt Is it ok to live your life the way you choose to live you life, or do you feel guilt because it’s ‘not how things are done’. Is what you are doing living a life from truth, purpose, healing, love and harmony. Or are you purposefully choosing to live your life to harm others, to trick others, to lie, to cause disharmony, OR, are those who respond (perhaps more so react) not accepting of your way of life? Guilt is tricking you Guilt can also be a response to manipulation and control. I'm sure you are familiar with the term 'guilt trip', this is what I'm talking about here. Be it emotional manipulation, control of how you are behaving, the choices you are making because it will impact ‘x’? Does that come from a place of empowered communication, a place where you are free to choose, a place that feels free of imposition? Or is it tricking you? Guilt drops you When we take on feeling guilt, we actually drop into an emotional response. Generally emotions that have us feel like we are in sympathy, or some may call it empathy. (Note - compassion is my approach as it's focus is the highest level of understanding, without getting in the mud). Question where you go - Does that help? Or does it make you feel emotional? Do you then respond from a place of truth or obligation? We go to guilt to drop Oh this one is a sneaky one. So, what does it mean to say we go to guilt to drop? Sometimes we just don’t want to take full ownership and responsibility for our choices. We can feel guilty as we are loving life, and the other person is not. Or we are feeling strong and steady, and the other person is not. Or we can do something the other person wants to do, but can’t… so we will intentionally drop, bound by guilt we dull down our shine. What’s the payoff in guilt? We get to stay small. We get to avoid the energy of jealousy or competition from others. We get to avoid confrontation from others. We get to stay under the radar and not rattle any cages. We get to ‘appear’ the good guy or girl, the saviour, we get acknowledged, we get praised, we get apparent love and acceptance. We feel worthy. Which is why there's a payoff, called hiding. Now for the record, I’m not saying any of what I have shared above is to be read as an excuse for not being in service, what I'm offering is there is a true way; a way free of guilt. A true call for us to be responsible, to step up, to lean in, to help out, to be in service. A truth that has no agenda, no neediness, no expectations. That if it’s done from choice (and not obligation), it will be effortless. A movement that is ultimately enriching for all involved. And who doesn’t want that! Is it maybe time to break some aspects of the guilt cycle? Love large, Lara XO PS - Feel free to share the link. Leave feedback. Book a session. Or just enjoy the read. |
AuthorLara Wilson loves all things human behaviour and human dynamics. A trained therapist, facilitator and leader in her field, Lara offers the IGNITION that will have you live truly Enriched from the inside out, in both business and life. 
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